Many people blindly follow the beliefs of their parents without ever truly thinking for themselves. The full expression of such passivity occurs when someone succumbs to the pressure of those around him, biting his tongue and yielding to someone else’s vision for his life. There are those who equate avoiding responsibility with personal freedom, when, in truth, it leaves us in a state of dependence. The emotional toll this takes is enormous. It stands to reason that if we think like a child and act like a child we will also feel like a child.
None us wants to believe that our parents or siblings have been less than nurturing, nor do they want to believe it themselves. They likely have no intention of projecting their doubt, cynicism, or other internal conflicts onto us. Nonetheless, just as children learn to speak by mirroring their caregivers, so our internal dialog absorbs these negative messages and repeats them back to us.
Love cannot grow in confinement. Nothing good blossoms in the dark. In order for someone to love us completely, we must allow them the space and the light to see us objectively. We mustn’t judge them for asking the questions that are inherent to their vantage point.