On the Death of Anthony Bourdain

A couple years ago, my son gave me a cookbook. We’d been out shopping and had seen it a couple times. He knew I wanted it. It was one of those times when you buy the gift so they can give it to you. In truth, you’re doing something for them.

Hardbound and illustrated by Ralph Steadman, longtime collaborator of Hunter Thompson, it was a really cool book to have around. And, it used to evoke joyful memories for me, until a couple days ago.    

“Appetites” was written by Anthony Bourdain. Now, it just reminds me of suicide. More precisely, it reminds me of the deep and profound sadness that selfishness can engender.

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On Divorce & Fatherhood

Two of my three oldest sisters were divorced before I started kindergarten. The oldest ended the marriage to her middle school sweetheart just after I graduated from high school. Seven of us have experienced the dissolution of at least one marriage. I promised myself it would not happen to me. I knew I wanted to be a husband and a father and I planned to never put a child through that. Yet, I am not the one exception. It happened.

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